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Emotional dependencay

 This is the thing I have been observing around me for the past few days...

and let me tell you this is the thing I hate THE most.

I hate when people start depending on me emotionally, kind of clingy which I don't like at all..that is why I stay away from emotionally connecting to people, let's say emotional distance...

now...what happens when you emotionally depend on someone? there are so many cons compared to pros...

first of all emotional dependency can be seen in every kind of relationship, between family members, friends, lovers, etc, etc,.

so what happens when you emotionally depend on someone is...you expect...you become possessive, you want all of them even occupying their own space.

emotional dependency is great until it is equal from both sides and when the opposite person is wise enough to understand them and make the other one understand about their needs.

At some point, it becomes your weakness to be emotionally dependent on others and it becomes equally annoying to the other person, people might become stressed and depressed at times, they feel weak and at times they start blaming themselves.

people should be aware of that and mature enough to understand and communicate that.

Be connected with people emotionally with a level of awareness that it is your emotion, not theirs, and don't expect or demand the same in return..people are different and everyone wants different things and of course, everyone thinks differently..after all this now I understand why communication is the key and I would like to write a post in communication separately...

but people have realized one thing that they have to be emotionally available to others... I mean... like in a relationship... keeping aside the emotional dependency..being emotionally available is what a person all needs...how is it different?...let me give an example...wanting to talk to someone all day and wanting to talk to someone when they are feeling low...I hope you got it...

we are emotional creatures..all these things happen in our lives without our interest

all we need is some good people around us..hope you are one of those good people, be the good people that the world needs.


                                                                                                                                    -Mystery girl


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