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SHE AND HER "SELF RESPECT"

 Okay first of all I am not a feminist.

This is because I am a woman too and I can relate to the situations women around me go through and situations they have been facing. 

should I mention everything in points?!

  • before all else, there is no gender equality here, in India, since I don't know about other countries.
  • people don't  actually most of the people don't respect women and their opinions as a woman
  • I don't think if I can say this earth is a safe place for girls
  •  she has to protect herself
  • of course, she doesn't have to have freedom coz she is a woman.
  • andd she should get married to some unknown as elders say, if she objects then they tag you with different titles again you should not object coz you are a women
    I don't know if this sounds rude but a woman has to live without self-respect in a typical Indian family.

  now let me tell you what girls around me have gone through, from my family to neighbors.
 
I did saw so many situations which made me feel disgusted like why don't they give fu*king respect which she absolutely deserves, even more for what she bears for a family as a teenage girl to a wife. I know men do face such problems, but they face them because of the situations or may because of how they have grown up at least they can walk safely on the streets and wear whatever clothes they want. a girl has to face many things just because she is born as a "girl".

of course, because we live in patriarchal society women are not demanding that power or anything but they at least deserve to be respected.
women are victims of stupid judgments of others or rumors, mostly which are not true which they don't deserve to be judged about.

and here comes the point there are still some families who show partiality in treating their children ...why she has to do compromise for so many things because she is a girl, why there are still people who create these kinds of minds like male supremacy, he deserves everything because he is born "HE". a girl has to adjust for and accept everything which they demand.
why?? do they think she is not human, she too has a heart, she has her self-respect, she has her opinions. which should be considered and valued. 

When will people start considering what she wants, why don't they care if she likes to do it or not, whatever the thing maybe?

why women have to fight for rights which they deserve as a human and they still are being judged for questioning, everyone questions and judges feminism but no one thinks why it has been raised, are these #metoo movements and all have to be done if they are safe and sound.

Do people don't even understand,, sometimes girls question their existence like " why I have to be born as a girl and go through all this". This is how the worst people around her make them feel.

And of course, how can I forget the mean looks, catcalling and I'll treatment she has to go through in her everyday life.

When these kinds of things are mentioned or discussed people think it's exaggerated or common,NO it has to be considered as an issue it's not common, not after she has been affected mentally by everything.

Even in this generation of all educated people women have to go through all this, I just feel sorry for the women of my mom's generation

andd the disrespect she has to go through after marriage is another level... I should definitely mention a Bollywood movie called "Thappad" It beautifully explains this whole situation of how people do not even consider her self-respect. what they indirectly question is when a man has the right of slapping her women publicly then why not a woman can do the same?? this statement alone defines what culture we are in. I just pray that there are better days for women in the future and I promise myself that I never gonna hurt myself respect for whatever the situations are going to be.



                                                                                                                                   -Mystery girl
 

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